Let’s think back to our childhood nursery rhyme friend Humpty Dumpty. If you need a refresher the nursery rhyme goes like this:
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall,
All the King’s horses and all the King’s men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again.
Sometimes I can relate to Humpty. Life, regardless of want or expectation, throws some immense, life altering challenges at us. Sometimes, the challenges, conflicts, and stress can leave you feeling broken, undesirable, and even unable to see hope for your future. We want you to know there is HOPE. You can build your ability to be resilient. Not only can you bounce back from minor hassles or survive major hardships, you can also thrive!
How do you do this? Imagine if Humpty realized that instead of being an ooey gooey disposable mess, he could be transformed into a yummy, fluffy, scrambled egg. A trial turned triumphant! Broken turned resilient! You can reimagine and rebuild your state of being towards resiliency.
Current research indicates that humans have ability to be extremely resilient, and there are protective factors that allow people to build resilience. Resiliency can be taught and learned; it is not a fixed trait.
Our desire is to help you boost your resiliency in order to not only survive college, but thrive! We don’t want anyone to be stuck in a Humpty Dumpty mindset.
Here are some resources on campus to serve as your protective factors towards resiliency:
- Health Access- Student Health and Counseling Services is your one stop shop for all your health needs from check ups, pharmacy needs, to mental health services.
Student Health & Counseling Services: http://www.csusm.edu/shcs/
- Mentors and Role Models- seek mentors and role models for advising and support.
Peer Mentor Program: http://www.csusm.edu/sll/peermentoringprogram/mentee_index.html
Peer Health Educators: http://www.csusm.edu/hope/paws/index.html
Faculty Mentoring Program: http://www.csusm.edu/fc/mentoring/
- Having social connections and a support system helps. Many student clubs and organizations offer opportunities where you can build lasting friendships and authentic relationships.
Student Organizations: http://www.csusm.edu/orgs/
Student Life and Leadership: http://www.csusm.edu/sll/about/index.html
Multicultural Programs & Cross-Cultural Center: http://www.csusm.edu/sll/mc/index.html
Greek Life: http://www.csusm.edu/sll/greek/index.html
- Experience Mastery-See your Academic Advisors to see how you can master your Major and Minor studies or get more connected.
Academic Advising: http://www.csusm.edu/academicadvising/
- Economic Stability- seek out assistance through Financial Aid Services
Types of Financial Aid: http://www.csusm.edu/finaid/fatypes/index.html
- CSUSM’s Cougar Care Network is an early alert initiative to improve student success, retention, and persistence. http://www.csusm.edu/ccn
Here’s what you can do to bounce back, push through, and move forward:
- Do not let your problems define you or see them as impossible.
- Take good care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
- Give yourself time to be creative and express yourself.
- Be confident in your abilities and avoid negative self-talk.
- Seek out and sustain supportive relationships.
- Be flexible, improvise and accept change.
- Accept that change is a part of life.
- Make goals and move toward them.
- Look for opportunities for self-discovery.
- Keep things in perspective and be realistic.
- Show gratitude. Focus on what you have rather than what you do not.
- Be authentic. Stay true to yourself and know when to ask for help.
- Do not minimize your pain. Mourn your loses, but do not allow grief to consume you.
- Find your purpose. Give back to others, set goals for yourself, and know what you want out of life.
- Connect with others. Having a support system to call on for help or to cheer you on is important.
- Take initiative. Don’t wait for opportunities or for someone to do it for you.
- Remain calm. Tolerate uncomfortable feelings and process them.
The road to resilience is an ongoing process as you accept where you are in life and choose to transform yourselves for the better. In 2017, Resolve to be Resilient!
Written By: Charity Marino (2014 Alumni) SHCS Graduate Intern